If we are writing a blog about dating in today’s faith-based culture, this was obviously going to come up at some point. So, lets talk about it – and also just want to give a shoutout to all my friends’ parents who are reading this because talking about my sex life with you is not awkward at all. (Jokes! Happy you’re here)
Alright. So – this is a typical doctor visit for me:
Doctor: “Are you sexually active?”
Doctor: “When was the last time you had sex?”
Me: “Let’s see, it was 1969 and the war had just ended”
Doctor: “Are you making jokes?”
Me: “Not really.”
I get nervous in these settings, what can I say. You know what’s even more awkward? When you go back to the doctor a year later and they say, “So you’re still not sexually active?” Welcome to my life.
Before you ride me off as one of those Christians who think you’ll get pregnant and die from having sex (hey Mean Girls), I am the last person who will be judging you. I am 30 and have now decided to wait untill I’m married, but this was not always the case. I am fully aware of my sex drive and yes sometimes this is REALLY hard. I have studied this subject in the bible a lot and I’ve come to the conclusion that because God invented sex, dedicating an entire book of the bible to a very sexual love story, He probably thinks it’s a very good thing. We often view God as this anti-sex rigid figure who will shun you for merely mentioning that you want to have it. That couldn’t be further from the truth. Sex is the highest form of connection possible between two people. Let’s just be real. I think most of us can agree that you usually become attached or emotionally shut off to the person you have sex with. This is my own opinion but I have found that a lot of people agree with this statement. On the other hand, what’s the line if I’m not having it? What if I feel like I’m going to die if I don’t have it? What are the rules? Are there rules? Can I send sexy snapchats? How sexy? Or is it based on something else? Have we gotten it wrong this whole time?
I don’t expect us all to agree, but I would love to dive deeper because it is a HOT MESS of a societal topic in Christian culture. We’ve decided to do a sex series and it’s about to get as awkward as my doctor visits.
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